There is the time where we wanna be seen, sometimes desperately seen. Where we share to be seen. Where we comment to be seen.
To actually justify our own beliefs
Where we are the children that still need the yes of the parents.
And it’s good
It’s a valuable time in our lifes

And it’s there because we did not feel seen in a time where definately the adults in our lives where there to see us or even better share presence with us to accompany us in our process and movement of incarnation

As we incarnate reflecting our own consciousness, thoughts, mind in a mirror
And the mirror are basically the adults in our life
So If they did not receive us in all the possible ways of being there with us we seek that because the incarnation process is not completed

We seek it in partners, in mentors, in friends, even in children. Actually everywhere
And it is a fine and humble line
As when we are adults others are not here to see us
Seeing one another can be a beautiful side effect, a plus and we are here then to create
To give validation to ourselves
To work together in order to create together
Instead of mirroring each other constant validation we don’t have for ourselves

First we share to be seen
Then we share to provide insight and knowledge
You see my eye on relationship as adults is not so much I see someone, someone sees me. The child inside sees the other child inside. And they get in resonance with each other what actually happens a lot and for many people is the base of relationship in general.
My eye is what do we create together
You validate yourself. I validate myself.
It’s a good feeling to see each other but actually more fundamental is do we create anything together?
Got that creation value?
Coming together for that creation
For sure being nourished and stable.
Having a good solid ground

But more intresting is what third thing do we see and nourish together
This is my focus and direction
With my husband
With my clients
With everybody
I know that people often wanna be seen
That the unseen child sometimes comes in the way
And I can see it and stay clearly aligned
As I know that focussing on a magic third
Focussing on serving
Focussing on creating
Will heal and give everybody way more than only seeing and caring for the unseen child
We know that deep down

A major point why people often only grow to a certain point like to an invisible veil is because they stay focussed in what can I get instead of what can I give
And getting majorly is attention, validation, someone, something that mirrors me I am right instead of knowing myself, standing for myself and acting like a grown up
And not acting like a grown up, expecting and even wanting the validation from the outside world, creates a deep sense of mistrust towards ourselves. Shame also. Guilt also. But more important is the layer of mistrust towards yourself
Cause if you do not trust yourself because you are nit willing to be in responsibility for you you will not be able to trust anything else
And where that leads we all know

It’s easy actually even though sometimes or even often it might feel everything but not easy
It still is
See yourself
Be responsible inside
So that you can and will trust yourself in the first place
Trusting you will naturally occur to trusting Others, trusting the world, trusting the goodness, trusting money and so on
Creating and being a grown up that grows even more up everyday

Sophie